Sunday, August 01, 2010

A week I don't care to repeat

A very brief weekly round up...

I think the Elder has decided to quit the 'journey'. She's not updated her blog since her notice she was required to keep one. She's been staying out at Sub's family property and not attended Uni for at least a week. Just when I thought she was getting herself on track.

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The Teen is living rough again. She had been sharing with the Elder but they have come to the conclusion that they cannot share together. Teen keeps asking MOTH and I to move back there. I don't seem to be able to convince her that it's just not logistically possible, as well as not being practical. It's her home town and she cannot be convinced to move back here. It's so stressful knowing that she can't afford housing, can't find anyone serious enough to share with and has to rely on the generosity of friends for a place to stay every few nights. She's 18 now, and for various reasons, cannot live at home. We can't support her. She gets Youth Allowance but last time I looked, she was only getting $377 a FORTNIGHT? How does a person get a house and pay rent/utilities/food on that? How is that any different from pensioners....

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The hassles with the kids is having a very negative effect on MOTH. The black dog lurks in the background and he's working hard to keep it at bay.

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The job I had hopes for at work is not .... working out the way I had hoped. The general vibe from the Manager, although not in so many words, was that he didn't think I could do it. So he awarded the task to my new immediate manager. We are to work closely together on this task. I was relatively happy because I would still have some input, although not the responsibility I had been working toward. I suppose I should say that the task is organising a conference. It goes for a week - 3 full days of program, 2 full days of tutorials. There are about 1000 delegates who attend. The new manager has been serving on the committee longer than I, but only been involved in part of it. I've been on the main committee for 5 years, the program committee 2. I know everything except the bit the new manager used to do (media liaison).

We had our first program committee meeting last Friday. There are new members, and 3 left of the old ones; a completely different dynamic. The Manager turned up and proceeded to take over the proceedings. I NEVER clash with anyone if I can help it - I can't deal with conflict. He and I clashed at least 3 times over the course of the hour and a half of the meeting. He tried to tell us how to run the committee. He tried to tell us that we needed a meeting next week to make a decision about some of the things we had discussed THIS meeting. Go figure. Usual procedure from previous meetings is chuck a couple of suggestions about then decide from those which are preferred. At the same sitting. But no, he decreed another meeting the next week. I disagreed, trying to pin them down to make a decision now. The decision has been made, he said. I just made it. I told him straight out it wasn't his decision to make; it belonged to the Chair. He also decided that main conference stuff should be discussed at the program committee meeting and when I objected because, frankly, it's a stupid idea, someone asked who was on the main conference committee. I said the new manager and I. He promptly declared he was on that committee as well. I simply cannot work with someone who makes it so plain that they don't trust my judgement. I have decided to withdraw from the program committee, and I dread having to work with him on the main committee.

When I returned to the office and announced that he was on the program committee, I was laughed at. With pity. When I mentioned to a different group that he was on the main committee, someone commented, Oh my god no!

I really do not want to be associated with the mess that man is going to create.... If it works he will bask in the glory, if it does not, the new manager and I will be at fault.

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But on a lighter note, we had a flat battery sometime during the week. Zman and I pulled into the service station where I swap cars. As soon as we hit the driveway, I asked Zman if he had jumper leads. Yep, MOTH left the car headlights on. It doesn't take long but it sure results in a flat battery. One phone call to RACQ later and I'm advised it could take an hour for them to turn up. Luckily it didn't but Zman decided to wait for a while with us.

Today MOTH and I went to the movies with Sunny. The movie was Inception. The special effects are mind numbingly good and there were some vertigo inducing moments! It is a movie I think I would be happy to see more than once. In fact, I think it might be necessary to see it more than once - there are probably bits in the first viewing I'm sure to have missed. It also ends on a rather suspenseful note!

A care package from Mother arrived during the week. It contained a bag my father had borrowed when he was down last, marshmallows, minties, a couple blocks of chocolate, a pack of Dove peppermint chocolate, and a bag of fantales. I love those things.

It arrived before Friday, but brightened my week to that point. Thanks Mum, you always manage to hit the spot. xxx

4 comments:

Colleen Barnett said...

It's definitely time to move on. It's tough too that the kids are doing it rough. I guess it's even harder that you can't do it for them. They have to make their own mistakes. We all know as soon as Teen gets a job she will be out of the woods, but we also know that's unlikely to happen.

Fingers crossed for them all. xxxxxxx

sparklingmerlot said...

1) Kids - the hardest job in the world. Especially when we have to start cutting strings and make them stand on their own two feet. BIG HUG.

2) Your job - can you find another one? sounds awfully like the situation I was in late last year. Or can you go to HR cos it's bullying and harassment and ILLEGAL!!

3) Can't wait to see the movie. Might go tomorrow afternoon as brother is doing the mother run.

4) Care packages rock. Especially where chocolate and marshmallows are involved.

Hope your week is better.

Butterfly Kissez said...

Wow and I thought my week was bad...My niece wants to move out of home because she and my mum are just not getting on...Miss 16 is rather lazy but wants the world and my mum is quite a nag and so they clash...ALL THE TIME!! Miss 16 says "You know I cna move out at 14 and get paid by the givt." and mum is like sure go ahead...little does she know how little money she will get to survive especially since her mobile phone bills are huge!

Can't wait to see Inception!

As for the job...I worked with someone like that...took the credit when things went well and blamed everyone else when it failed and wouldn't listen to any other opinions. Might be time to move on??

Gastronomy Gal said...

Oh my, what a horrible week, best not to relive it. Youth Allowance isn't much but the kids are going to have to substitute that with extra work. I lived out of home when I was 18 and did just fine- hopefully they will too. Sometimes it does take a little while to get on track, but don't give up on them.

I have to ask- do you work for a not for profit? i know that a nightmare man- that sounds like this guy- has just left a company I know of- and if he is the same man, you need to get out of there. You should be able to organise a conference - it's so rude that he won't even give you the opportunity to try.